You're Worth It: Don't Be Okay with Stupid, because there are Plenty of Fools out there! (Online Dating)

             *****DISCLAIMER*****
The event in this post really happened. A few things (names, phone numbers, etc.) were changed. I must say, you have to be very careful on these sites or even meeting someone in person. Use common sense!

You lose all hope in physical (actually being present, not sex) due to a few, (or maybe even several) failures. You then decide to sign up for an online Christian dating site: Mingle with Your Boaz. You choose a few of your best pictures, highlight a few of your best qualities, and poof you have a profile. You start searching through your potential matches, and boom *MESSAGE!!*.

Rubdown69: Hello beautiful! How are you today? I would really like to get to know you.

Naïvegal91: Hello! I'm great! How are you? Thanks for the compliment! 😊 You're not so bad yourself! What would you like to know?

Rubdown69: Text me (555)864-0000.

Naïvegal91: Okay. ☺

5558640022: Hey handsome! I'm Claire by the way.

5558640000: Hey girl! I'm Larry. Come through so we can chill. -Mr. Muscles

5558640022: I can't. My car is in the shop til tomorrow.

5558640000: I have several cars, I'll come get you. -Mr. Muscles

5558640022: I don't know, but you can meet me somewhere.

5558640000: Okay beautiful. -Mr. Muscles

*30 Minutes Later*

Y'all meet up and he's instantly all over you. You sit there perplexed, because isn't Boaz supposed to at least try to abstain from sex? I guess not. He cuts it short, because he has to leave. You say your goodbyes, and you text him a sweet, "You smell really good" text. He responds with a very vulgar text. You decide to reveal that you're celibate, because there's no better time than now. He basically tells you that if he's to buy you stuff, you'd better be putting out. At that moment you're at a dead end. No point of going any further with someone like that. 'How could he? I'm better than that!', you think.

I was informed by a guy that most dating sites, "are for men to lure in the p*ssy". Sorry, but that was a direct quote. I honestly didn't know that, because I'm still a bit naïve for a 25 year old. I need to get my head out of the clouds, and face reality.

If I didn't love myself, I would've had a tough time with this situation. I've noticed that abstaining from sex is very rare. It's almost as dead as chivalry. My bubbly personality, my infectious smile, and my sense of humor are nothing to men without sex being involved. Well, y'all can kick rocks, because I have a ton of respect from myself. I know that my value is worth way more than settling! I'll probably celibate for the rest of my life, but daggum it! I know my worth.

Love yourself! Know your worth! Don't settle for anything less than what you want! And don't let anyone tell you that you have to have sex with them to get attention! IT AIN'T WORTH IT!

XOXO,
B. Ieisha

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